Emotionally Focused Therapy Books

Emotionally Focused Therapy Books

I thought I liked emotionally focused therapy when I learned about it in my couples class during grad school but over the last year I have fallen head over heels in love with EFT. It absolutely fits who I am as a person and a therapist so everything EFT has been filling up my bookshelf. These are a few of my favorites. You’ll also find info on an upcoming EFT training below.

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EFT Books for Clinicians

Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: Creating Connection by Susan M. Johnson

This was one of my textbooks in grad school and is still one of my favorite EFT books. It is an excellent introduction to the theory and gives wonderful examples of what the therapy looks like with real couples. I think this is a great place to start if you are wanting a solid introduction to the research behind emotionally focused therapy and the techniques for using it with couples.

Becoming an Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist: The Workbook by Susan M. Johnson, Brent Bradley, James L. Furrow, Alison Lee, Gail Palmer, Doug Tilley, Scott Woolley

If you are interested in improving your EFT skills and like workbooks, you need this one. It can be used with The Practice of Emotionally Focused Therapy or you could use it on it’s own. If you’re supervising couples therapists, I think the worksheets and exercises would be an invaluable tool.

Stepping into Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy by Lorrie L. Brubacher

This is probably the book I would recommend most as an introduction to EFT. It easy to understand and implement into your practice. Ms. Brubacher teaches you the steps of EFT while showing how they help couples where they are. She also shares the language that you can use in your office so you walk away with a better understanding of how to apply this theory with the couples you serve.

Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy with Trauma Survivors: Strengthening Attachment Bonds by Susan M. Johnson

This shouldn’t be your first exposure to EFT but if you are wanting to take your work to a deeper level, this is the way to do it. Dr. Johnson shows how attachments are wounded through trauma and also how they can help us heal. Several years ago, she was asked by the military to help soldiers who were struggling when they returned home from war. She developed a program that helped them reconnect with their partners. Then she wrote this book that combines trauma treatment and theory, attachment science, and EFT techniques. The techniques taught here have been powerful when working with couples where one or both have experienced serious trauma.

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Attachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families by Susan M. Johnson

This is Sue Johnson’s latest book and it’s amazing if you are wanting to learn more about EFT or attachment science. I had a bit of trouble keeping up with some of the clinical examples in the earlier chapters but overall it’s a great book. This one is special because for the first time, Dr. Johnson teaches readers how to apply EFT to work with individuals and couples. I wouldn’t make it the first EFT book you read but it should definitely be on your list.

Emotionally Focused Family Therapy  by James L. Furrow, Gail Palmer, Susan M Johnson, George Faller, and Lisa Palmer-Olsen

This is the first emotionally focused family therapy (EFFT) book. If you are interested in applying EFT and attachment science to families, this is a must read.

You can find a great article on EFT for LGBTQ clients here.

EFT Books for Clients

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Susan Johnson

Hold Me Tight is probably Dr. Johnson’s most popular non-clinical book. She walks couples through the path to reconnection. This is also the basis for Hold Me Tight workshops that are a great resource for lots of couples. The beginning of the book is a little slow and heavy of research so some of my clients have needed to skip ahead but the skills they learn from it are always impactful.

Created for Connection: The “Hold Me Tight” Guide for Christian Couples by Sue Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer 

I see a lot of Christian couples and they have loved this adaption of Hold Me Tight. It helps them use their faith as a resource while they heal their relationship. This book contains all of the science and presents the same concepts as the original HMT and teaches readers how those align with Biblical principles.

Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships by Sue Johnson

Love Sense is my favorite EFT book to recommend to couples because it is the easiest to read. It doesn’t go through all of the steps or nearly as much research as the others but it presents attachment in a very accessible manner.

I listened to Love Sense on Audible and really enjoyed that version.

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An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us by Veronica Kallos-Lilly

This workbook is excellent an excellent addition for couples who want to keep working between their sessions. It is an excellent addition to therapy. I’ve also found it quite useful for clients who aren’t able to come in every week because they don’t lose their momentum as easily.

More EFT resources

I haven’t read the following EFT books yet but I’ve heard great things about them.

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Emotionally Focused Family Therapy  by James L. Furrow, Gail Palmer, Susan M Johnson, George Faller, and Lisa Palmer-Olsen

This is the first emotionally focused family therapy (EFFT) book. If you are interested in applying EFT and attachment science to families, this is a must read.

The Emotionally Focused Therapist Training Set: The Emotionally Focused Casebook edited by James L. Furrow, Susan M. Johnson, and Brent A Bradley

This casebook is a great reference for anyone using and learning EFT. Readers learn how to apply EFT principles to different client populations with case studies and descriptions of how this treatment approach is used effectively with them.

Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy For Dummies by Brent Bradley

This book could serve as an easy introduction to EFT. It was written by a certified EFT therapist and introduces readers to the techniques of this brand of couples therapy with examples and simple exercises.

Are you ready to fall in love with EFT or take your skills to the next level?

I am so excited to volunteering with the North Texas EFT Community as we host an externship in Fort Worth November 13th – 16th. You can earn 28 CEUs in four days and take your first step towards becoming certified in EFT. I hope you’ll join me! Let me know if you are planning to come or if you have any questions.

Register for the EFT Externship here

Not to brag or anything but Kenny Sanderfer will be teaching our externship. He wrote Created for Connection with Sue Johnson and is an excellent speaker. I love his horse stories and real life examples.

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Many therapists enjoy recommending books to their clients to supplement the work they are doing together. We also use books to help ourselves grow as people and practitioners. Remember though that books are never a replacement for real human connection or for therapy when it’s needed. If you find yourself needing a therapist, a great place to start is Psychology Today. If you are having thoughts of hurting yourself or someone else, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline.


Le Shepard

Le Shepard earned her MA in Counseling Psychology from Texas Woman's University in Denton, TX. She currently works as an adjunct psychology professor at Weatherford College Wise County and counsels adults and couples at Wise County Christian Counseling.

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