F**k It Therapy by John C. Parkin
From the publisher:
If every therapist and psychotherapist on the planet could repeat this to their clients, like a mantra, again and again, there would be fewer therapists and psychotherapists. Because it works. Very quickly. Realizing that what you’re worrying about and stressing over doesn’t really matter so much in the grand scheme of things is the door to freedom and healing. And the little profanity ‘F**k It’ is the key to that door. Ask anyone who’s come close to death, or lost someone close to them, or discovered they have a serious disease and they’ll say the same thing: that the little things don’t matter, F**k It… enjoy life in every moment for what it is, not what you want it to be… worry less, live more… remember what’s important and forget the rest.
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About the author:
John Parkin is a former creative director in advertising turned life coach. He and his wife run a retreat in Italy where the teach F**k It workshops. He also provides coaching via skype. You can learn more about him here.
What we love:
I got this book because it was recommended by several therapists in our community who really enjoyed it. F**k It Therapy is a provocative book and that’s part of the charm. The ideas behind it are simple but pretty solid from a therapeutic standpoint. The message that we should let go of the things and ideas that don’t really matter or serve us is important for many of the people we serve.
What we didn’t:
F**k It Therapy seems to be one of those books that you either love or hate. I fell in the latter category. It wasn’t that there was anything I really disagreed with, and I’m definitely a fan of a well placed f-bomb, but I just couldn’t get into it. It felt gimmicky and I think this entire book could have been a blog post or maybe a couple if you really stretched it.
This book isn’t for everyone. If you have a client who appreciates irreverence and would benefit from learning to say f**k it, it could be really helpful for them.
Many therapists enjoy recommending books to their clients to supplement the work they are doing together. We also use books to help ourselves grow as people and practitioners. Remember though that books are never a replacement for real human connection or for therapy when it’s needed. If you find yourself needing a therapist, a great place to start is Psychology Today. If you are having thoughts of hurting yourself or someone else, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline.