About the author:
Esther Perel is a celebrated couples therapist and author of two books: Mating in Captivity and her newest work, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. She is also the host of an Audible Original series, Where Should We Begin? that includes single sessions of therapy with a diverse set of couples and she also has a Ted Talk. You can learn more about her here.
Esther Perel argues that couples often struggle because passion and stability fight against each other. In the beginning of a relationship, lust flourishes because everything is new and exciting. As the relationship matures, the couple knows each other more and is able to rely on each other. This can make for a healthy relationship but might spell doom for eroticism. Esther explores this dynamic and offers help for couples to reclaim intimacy.
What we love:
Mating in Captivity is an honest book that explores a hard, complicated subject. Esther Perel uses examples from her work as a therapist to demonstrate the challenges that couples face in maintaining intimacy.
What we didn’t:
Couples wanting a how-to manual will be sorely disappointed. This book does not lay out clear steps for rekindling intimacy but spends more time exploring the problem itself.
Mating in Captivity is a great book for therapists who work with couples. It will help practitioners better understand challenges that are common to couples who present for counseling.